Women in Relationship and the Internet: Making it Work Virtually

Despite the Notion that TOO MUCH Internet USE is Breaking Marriages and Relationships

The Internet has evolved to make lives a lot easier yet despite this premise, more and more people are discouraged to use the world wide web to save their relationships.

A lot has been written about how Cyberspace addiction can eventually lead to relationship break-ups. 

Internet addiction is usually associated with impulsivity, narcissism, and aggression to name a few that has carried on its impact on our offline lives,  according to Elias Aboujauode author of the book   "Virtually You".  

How many times have you been busy video chatting with friends while your husband waits up for you?  Or how about your kids refusing to eat at the dinner table and prefers to eat alone in his room while playing online games?  Has your husband been sleeping in the next room so that he can watch Netflix as late as he wants? 

8 Rules for Women to Make the Internet work for your Relationship 

1. Chat Apps aren't just for quick messages only- Who says that PMs are for quick messages only like, "Pls turn off the light when you leave the house" or "Pls leave the key under the mat"..etc.  How about using it to send your loved one sweet romantic notes?. Send note like you are sending love letters in the old times, only this time it's virtual (plus!  you can add cute romantic emoticons too). wink*

2. Be proud of him and let everyone know about it. Make a small story on your Social Media accounts or Personal Blog about how you appreciate how hard he is working to provide for your family. Be proud of his achievements,  by posting a photo of him with a nice caption about his new conquest. 

3. Set a Movie Night at Home- Download your favorite movie or use a movie streaming app to watch your favorite movie right in the comfort of your own bedroom.   

4. Create online videos or Photoloops- Gather your happy photos together and create videos or photo loops of special occasions as a family.  Let him know that you cherish all the special occasions that you spent together.

5. Send him a copy of your playlist via digital music or podcast-  Include songs you enjoyed together as boyfriends/girlfriends, songs played during your wedding and love songs that mirror your own love story.

6. Make a virtual album about places you have gone together -and another folder for places you dream of going in the future. This will make you want to look forward to your next vacation together and cherish memories you've made in the past.  This is perfect for couples who like to travel a lot.

But if you prefer the old fashioned photo keeping try this Photo Album

7. Send Virtual gifts - Aside from the real gifts. Virtual flowers will never defeat the real ones...but sometimes if it's impossible to get to a flower shop, it's the thought that counts.

8. Share a Bible quote - Pray together even if it's just online. The best manifestation of how much you wanted your relationship to work is to let your spouse or partner know that you are praying for him/her and your family.  <insert heart here>

The realization is, the cyber world is NOT a bad place for us if we use it responsibly and we make a conscious effort to make it work for our advantage. 


Reference:

Elias Abojaoude :  The Internet’s effect on personality traits: An important casualty of the “Internet addiction” paradigm ://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5573001/